Good morning everyone!
I know that I have not been around but the last few months have been hectic to say the least.
Mum’s funeral went off as she had wanted, I found a list of everything on the dining room table after she had passed away and other than the “plain pine box” that she had stipulated, Dad’s comment on seeing it at the undertakers was “there is no way in hell that your Mum is going to lie in one of those!”, all her instructions were followed.
Mum was cremated and had wanted her ashes just scattered anywhere but Dad needs somewhere to go and “visit” her so we opted for an ash grave in The Durbanville Memorial Park. The minister who had conducted her service came out and consecrated the ash grave for us and did a reading and prayer as we laid her ashes to rest. Dad has stipulated that he wants his ashes to be mixed with Mum’s and for them to be laid in the same ash grave together. The very kind lady in the reception has assured me that when the time comes they will do the mixing for me!! Thank goodness, not a job that I fancy doing.
Jess and I moved in with Dad on 5th December and we are now mostly settled in. There have been alot of “firsts” since Mum left us. 15th Dec was their Wedding Anniversary, 58 years. Then Christmas and New Year and then Mum’s birthday on 19th January. Very sad times for Dad and difficult for Jess and I too.
Jess is now in Grade 10 and loving it! She has a very big workload from now until the end of her school career as she has chosen subjects that she needs for her future studies, Interior Design. She now has English, Afrikaans, Maths Lit., Life Orientation, Art, Consumer Studies and Design. She is very focused and intends doing well, this is where I have had to let her do her own decision making and just be here for support! Oh boy these teen years are not easy!
I am ok, physically fit and just about managing to get into a routine at last. I just feel pulled in so many directions at the moment and feel as if there is not much left over for me.
I did put myself on the list for a haircut every month at the hairdresser, a big achievement for me as Jess had been cutting my hair for me, and doing a good job too but she really didn’t enjoy doing it for me and so I made the decision to go to the hairdresser. Love the hour to myself when I go and she does a good job.
Jess went just before Christmas and had a Brazilian Blow Wave. It was expensive and took 3 hours but she is so thrilled with the result. She has the most enormous head of hair and it is too “poofy” for her to leave loose all the time and tying up for school was becoming a mission that I ended up having to help her with every morning! Much tamer now and in great condition so a win all around.
Jess and I are doing archery now together. Dad and Jess bought me a recurve bow for Christmas, for which I am so very grateful.
It is a very challenging bow to shoot with but I am loving the challenge and am determined not to let it get the better of me.
Jess is having great success with her shooting and now takes part in competitions in the Schools League.
I have to just say in closing that whilst I miss my Mum with every fibre of my being, I am so very grateful that she did not have to suffer for any length of time. I talk to her every day and I just hope that she is approving of everything that I am doing here.
Hopefully it won’t be so long before my next post and maybe I can find one or two photos to share with you all.
Blessings and love